I write about therapy, parenting, and what it means to be human in these particular times. This is where I share what I'm learning.
I've been thinking about how we teach kids to move past discomfort too quickly. A parent told me last week that her daughter was upset about a friendship, and her first instinct was to problem-solve it away. What if the staying is the work?
Read More →Here's what I actually say when parents ask me about screens: It's less about the time and more about what else isn't happening. It's about noticing when we reach for distraction and teaching our kids to notice too.
Read More →Most people come to therapy wanting to feel better. And they will. But first, they usually feel worse. Not because therapy isn't working, but because it is. We're turning toward things that have been carefully avoided.
Read More →I work with a lot of people who were the steady ones in their families. The ones who learned early to manage everyone else's emotions. They're often surprised to discover they have needs too, and that meeting them isn't selfish.
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