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Last week a parent asked me what to do when her 8-year-old said, "I hate myself" after losing at a board game. Not in a manipulative way. In that gut-punch, matter-of-fact tone that tells you she really believes it.
Here's what I told her, and what I wish more parents understood about shame, self-talk, and the mistakes we make when we rush to reassure...
Inside this issue: The difference between self-criticism and shame / Why "you're amazing!" backfires / A three-step framework for responding in the moment / What to practice when things are calm
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